Tag: Love (Emotion)

No Hearing Aids? Then No Marriage

Who celebrates her 52nd wedding anniversary and then, six months later, files for divorce? Me, it seems. And I’m not alone. Divorce rates for people 50 and above have doubled over the past few decades and more than doubled for those 65 and above. There’s even a name for this phenomenon: “gray divorce.” My husband […]

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Modern Love Podcast: Alicia Keys Reads ‘Who’s Allowed to Hold Hands?’

Listen and subscribe to our podcast from your mobile device: Via Apple Podcasts | Via RadioPublic | Via Stitcher Walking the streets of Brooklyn with her wife, Emma, Nicole Dennis-Benn discovered a “strange hierarchy” dictating who can publicly express physical affection without repercussion. Ms. Dennis-Benn, who is Jamaican-American and married to an African-American woman, wrote […]

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Tiny Love Stories: ‘She Was on Top of Me in the 3 a.m. Darkness’

Six Pies. One Acrylic Nail. When I remember my mother, I think of Thanksgiving: a sweltering kitchen, flour coated counters, piercing laughter through coffee-stained teeth and pies galore. I think of one year when — after hours of work involving every fruit imaginable — my mother noticed she had lost a chipped acrylic nail. It […]

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Face It, Mom and Dad: I’m Not Special

I come from a polite Midwestern family. We never argue. We acknowledge each other’s viewpoint and honor each other’s truth. But to the pantheon of complaints children lodge against their parents (affairs, abandonment, forgotten birthdays), I’m adding this: unbridled optimism. My parents believe in the power of positive thinking. Some fathers sing in the shower; […]

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‘Queen & Slim’ Could Be One of the Great Love Stories of All Time — if You Let It

The person I love and I were among the first members of the public to see the new film “Queen & Slim.” Early in September, we watched it alone on an upper floor of a nondescript office building in downtown San Francisco. It was a phenomenally isolating experience. We sat in a screening room accompanied […]

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Modern Love Podcast: Greta Gerwig Reads ‘Sharing a Cab, and My Toes’

Listen and subscribe to our podcast from your mobile device: Via Apple Podcasts | Via RadioPublic | Via Stitcher This week, the Modern Love podcast reprises Greta Gerwig’s reading of “Sharing a Cab, and My Toes.” In the 2016 essay, Julia Anne Miller writes about her decision to embrace new experiences after a young adult […]

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First Comes Snapchat, Then the Bachelor and Spinster Ball

ImageAbout 1,500 people came to the Bachelor and Spinster Ball, in Ariah Park, Australia, last month. ARIAH PARK, Australia — They called it a wet T-shirt contest, but there were no winners or losers. Not many shirts, either. One man wore nothing but a tool belt, which no one seemed to mind even as the […]

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It Was Obvious from Day 1

A few months after graduating from Yale in 2010, Ariel Shepherd-Oppenheim was home visiting her family in Los Angeles. Her sister, the actor Clementine Ford-Wilcox, hoping to encourage her to move back to L.A., took Ms. Shepherd-Oppenheim to a nightclub in Hollywood to meet people in the local L.G.B.T.Q. community. “I was looking for someone […]

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Modern Love Podcast: Kelly McCreary Reads ‘Waiting Patiently for the Wall to Crumble’

Listen and subscribe to our podcast from your mobile device: Via Apple Podcasts | Via RadioPublic | Via Stitcher After witnessing her parents’ disastrous divorce, Rachel Neumann was determined to keep her romantic relationships “light.” She decided to forgo making longtime commitments, because she thought that would protect her from potential pain. Was she right? […]

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Tiny Love Stories: ‘We Kissed Behind the Clothing Donation Bin’

Finding a Date in Divorce Group In Massachusetts, if you’re divorcing and have children under 18, you must complete a parenting program. For five Wednesday nights, my friend and I were buzzed into the local middle school, where we sat at small desks among other newly single parents: the crying blonde in scrubs, the angry […]

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When a Dad’s Secret Changes Everything

“I won’t be mad,” I said to my boyfriend. “I’ll understand. Really.” “I’m not, though,” he said. “You’re sure?” “I’m not gay,” he said, looking confused. “Well, I’m just saying, you can tell me.” Bryan and I had been together for two months, and I sometimes asked him fun and engaging questions such as: “You’re […]

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Just Friends? Let Me Read Between the Lines

To celebrate Modern Love’s 15th anniversary, we’re publishing a series of special features — three classic essays from the column’s early years and four conversations with writers whose stories were adapted for the television series now streaming on Amazon Prime Video. This week we present the first-ever Modern Love essay, writer Steve Friedman’s self-deprecating account […]

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The Luxury of Political Moderation

The Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.’s “Letter from Birmingham Jail” was written as a response to a group of “white moderate” clergy members who claimed to be supportive of the civil rights movement — but who had also called Dr. King’s activism both “unwise and untimely.” For these moderates, civil rights activists were not […]

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