“The golden age of dating apps is over,” a friend told me at a bar on Super Bowl Sunday. As we waited for our drinks, she and another friend swiped through Bumble and Hinge, hunting for new faces and likes. Across the bar were two young men: phones out, apps open, clearly doing the exact […]
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A Damaged Fani Willis Picks Up the Pieces of Her Case Against Trump
March 15, 2024, 5:05 a.m. ET March 15, 2024, 5:05 a.m. ET Credit…Kevin Dietsch/Getty Images Patrick Healy, deputy opinion editor: On Thursday, Chuck Schumer, the Senate majority leader, all but called on Israelis to replace Benjamin Netanyahu as prime minister. I don’t know how I feel about a top American lawmaker telling another country to […]
Read More‘Modern Love Podcast’: Brittany Howard Sings Through the Pangs of New Love
Brittany Howard, the five-time Grammy Award-winning singer, makes vibrant, dynamic music about love. As the frontwoman of the band Alabama Shakes, she was celebrated for the power and emotionality of her voice. When she began her solo career in 2019 with “Jaime,” an album named after and dedicated to her older sister, who died at […]
Read More‘Past Lives’ Changed My Mind About the Man Sitting Next to Me
My most stressful moviegoing experience last year was not the mushroom cloud in “Oppenheimer” or the murder trial scenes in “Anatomy of a Fall,” but watching the story of a love triangle among a Korean American woman, a Korean guy and a white guy in the Oscar-nominated “Past Lives.” In the film, Nora, our 30-something […]
Read MoreRupert Murdoch Is Engaged Again
Rupert Murdoch decided that at 92, it was time to give up the reins of power at his media empire — but it seems he believes age is no barrier for new love, or a new marriage. On Thursday, Mr. Murdoch’s office said that he planned to marry his girlfriend, Elena Zhukova, 67, a retired […]
Read More‘Modern Love Podcast’: Novelist Celeste Ng on the Big Power of Little Things
This transcript was created using speech recognition software. While it has been reviewed by human transcribers, it may contain errors. Please review the episode audio before quoting from this transcript and email transcripts@nytimes.com with any questions. [MUSIC PLAYING] speaker 1 Love now and — speaker 2 Did you fall in love [NON-ENGLISH SPEECH] speaker 3 […]
Read MoreTrump Lawyers Offer New Witness in Effort to Disqualify Fani Willis in Georgia
Defense lawyers in the Georgia election interference case against former President Donald J. Trump say they want to put someone on the stand whose testimony could back up their assertion that Terrence Bradley, a witness in their effort to disqualify the prosecutors running the case, gave misleading testimony. The new information comes from Cindi Lee […]
Read MoreTell Us About Your Pandemic Relationship Regrets
About two weeks ago, a woman who goes by the name Reesa Teesa created a 50-part series on TikTok to recount her whirlwind relationship saga with a man she began dating and quarantining with in March 2020. In the eight-hour epic, titled “Who TF Did I Marry?,” she referred to her ex-husband as a “pathological […]
Read MoreMan Convicted in Transgender Woman’s Killing in First Federal Trial of Its Kind
A South Carolina man was found guilty on Friday in the killing of a transgender woman in what the authorities said was the first federal murder trial of someone charged with a hate crime based on gender identity. After deliberating for several hours, jurors found the man, Daqua Lameek Ritter, guilty of a hate crime […]
Read MoreSex and the Capital City
“The Golden Bachelor” showed that sex is not just for spring chickens. Hearing aids and making out in a hot tub can go blissfully together. Now comes the Golden President. Even though fretful questions about his age have engulfed Joe Biden’s campaign, one thing is clear: His romance with Jill is still crackling. I have […]
Read MoreHe Doubted He’d Find ‘the One.’ She Made Him a Believer.
On his Hinge dating profile, Yuwoon Choi answered a prompt: “All I ask is that you … be open to dating someone in a wheelchair.” The prompt, in conjunction with his profession as general counsel at Samsung, caught Danni Liu’s eye when she came across his profile in May 2023. She matched with him and […]
Read MoreIn Love? Share Screenshots Of Your First Messages Together
Not long ago, nearly every initial conversation with a potential romantic partner was in person or over the phone. Now, they’re increasingly digital — taking place on dating apps, over text or in direct messages on social media. What were some of the first online words you exchanged with the person you’re with? Do you […]
Read MoreThe Key to a Happy, Stable Marriage
When Bert Ellison experienced intense mood swings, the first person he turned to was usually not his wife but Dan Driscoll, his close friend of more than two decades. During the first year of his Ph.D. program, Mr. Ellison was an emotional yo-yo, one day telling his wife that he wanted to quit, the next […]
Read More‘Modern Love Podcast’: Un-Marry Me!
We’re kicking off our new season this Valentine’s Day with a story from a Modern Love veteran. David Finch has published three Modern Love essays about how hard he has worked to be a good husband to his beloved wife, Kristen. As a man with autism who married a neurotypical woman, he found it especially […]
Read MoreCould Offering a $100,000 “Dating Bounty” Make You Luckier in Love?
For most of Mati Roy’s life, dating was far down on his list of priorities. Though he halfheartedly tried dating apps, and would have welcomed a relationship if it developed naturally, pursuing love didn’t seem worth the effort. But as Mr. Roy entered his 30s, his priorities began to shift. He spent a long time […]
Read MoreHow Love and Romance Affect Your Brain
New love can consume our thoughts, supercharge our emotions and, on occasion, cause us to act out of character. “People pine for love, they live for love, they kill for love and they die for love,” said Helen Fisher, a senior research fellow at the Kinsey Institute at Indiana University. “It’s one of the most […]
Read MoreI Love You, but I Hate Your Cooking
Food and love go hand in hand. For Valentine’s Day, we’re exploring this fiery connection in all stages of a relationship, from a first date to living together to breaking up. When Marta Hurgin first met Lisa Wolford, she loved Ms. Wolford’s sharp legal mind, her sense of humor and her empathy toward animals. And […]
Read MoreNo Deposits This Year at Love Bank, a Museum of Affection Hit by Fire
For romantics looking to display their passion and devotion, the Love Bank in Slovakia has plenty of room in its Love Vault where 7,000 people have already deposited their keepsakes and symbols of affection, whether reciprocated or unrequited. But this Valentine’s Day, the bank will be closed. Its medieval building, once home to the muse […]
Read MoreWhat Is Solo Polyamory, and Does It Just Mean You’re Single?
After James Nicholson went through a breakup in October, he realized that he was at a point in his life when he wanted to focus more on himself than on someone else, but without losing the perks of romantic intimacy. He was juggling work and grief from losing a family member, all while parenting a […]
Read MoreFor Gen Z, an Age-Old Question: Who Pays for Dates?
During a recent dinner at a cozy bar in Upper Manhattan, I was confronted with an age-old question about gender norms. Over bowls of ramen and sips of gin cocktails, my date and I got into a debate: Who should pay for dates? My date, a 27-year-old woman I matched with on Hinge, said gender […]
Read MoreNavigating Israel’s War as a Couple When One Spouse is Jewish
When Ava Friedmann and Michael Henein were married, they used a tablecloth from Ms. Friedmann’s grandmother as a huppah, or ritual canopy held above the couple in a Jewish wedding. Mr. Henein’s father, who is a Coptic Christian from Egypt, anointed them with holy oil. That same braiding of their cultural traditions has steered them […]
Read MoreWhen It Comes to Dating, Ambition Might Matter More Than Politics
I read through all 274 responses to a questionnaire I put out about how politics affects the dating lives of Americans under 30, and I took note of the fact that quite a few respondents used economic terminology when describing their romantic experiences. The term “scarcity,” in particular, came up more than once as a […]
Read MoreGood Marriages Are Good. Bad Marriages Are, Well, Bad.
There’s an idea that’s been floating around for a few years that when it comes to marriage, wealthy elites hold luxury beliefs. What does that mean? Rob Henderson — who popularized “luxury beliefs” in 2019 and has a book coming out next month that recounts his childhood in the foster care system — defines the […]
Read MoreCredit Card Statements Suggest Prosecutors in Trump Case Traveled Together
The estranged wife of a special prosecutor accused of having a romantic relationship with Fani T. Willis, the Atlanta district attorney who hired him, offered evidence on Friday that Ms. Willis accompanied him on trips unrelated to their work: leading the Georgia case against former President Donald J. Trump. A court filing from Joycelyn Wade, […]
Read MoreSex Educator Emily Nagoski’s New Book ‘Come Together’ Is a Product of Experience
A decade ago, as the sex educator Emily Nagoski was researching and writing her first book, “Come as You Are” — a soon-to-be best seller exploring the science of women’s sexuality — she and her husband stopped having sex. Nagoski began appearing everywhere, reassuring women that their sexuality was not a problem that needed to […]
Read MoreFani Willis Faces Upheaval in Trump Georgia Inquiry
Nearly three years after she began investigating former President Donald J. Trump and his allies, Fani T. Willis is facing the biggest test of her handling of the landmark election interference case. Ms. Willis, the district attorney of Fulton County, Ga., was accused this week of being romantically involved with the lead prosecutor she hired […]
Read MoreDid Ron DeSantis Shake His Wife’s Hand?
In a campaign full of strained social interactions and clumsy pantomimes of warmth, Ron DeSantis’s encounter with his wife at the presidential primary debate in Des Moines on Wednesday night was one of the more curious. During the second commercial break, Mr. DeSantis, the governor of Florida, strode to the edge of the stage and […]
Read MoreIf You’re Under 30, How Does Politics Affect Your Dating Life?
There’s been a good deal of worry over the last year about the future of marriage in the United States. For those who see marriage as pivotal to a thriving society, there’s reason for concern: According to a report last year from Pew Research, as of 2021, a quarter of 40-year-olds had never been married, […]
Read MoreLoneliness Is Inescapable. So Let’s Talk About It.
The Opinion video above gives voice to the lonely. We are publishing it at the end of a year in which loneliness started getting the kind of attention it has long deserved — an effort led, in large part, by the surgeon general of the United States, Dr. Vivek Murthy. In a guest essay last […]
Read MoreAsk These 11 Money Questions Before Moving In With Your Partner
This article is part of a Modern Love project on the intersection of money and relationships. Have you ever had a flip remark about, say, a romantic partner’s late-night internet purchase devolve into a corrosive and existential fight? Me too. Online shopping is about money, and in our romantic relationships, a lot of us aren’t […]
Read More‘Modern Love Podcast’: I Married My Subway Crush
Zoe Fishman couldn’t stop thinking about the man she called her “subway crush.” For years, she saw Ronen on the train and admired him from afar. When they finally connected, it turned out Ronen felt the same, and they began a blissful life together. But when their story took a devastating turn, Zoe had to […]
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