Tag: Parenting

The Meritocracy Is Ripping America Apart

There are at least two kinds of meritocracy in America right now. Exclusive meritocracy exists at the super-elite universities and at the industries that draw the bulk of their employees from them — Wall Street, Big Law, medicine and tech. And then there is the more open meritocracy that exists almost everywhere else. In the […]

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Elizabeth Warren’s Plan for Social Security Looks Smart

This article is part of David Leonhardt’s newsletter. You can sign up here to receive it each weekday. When I was a teenager, my mom showed me a statement that she had received in the mail from the Social Security Administration. It included an annual history of her earnings, which showed a big string of […]

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Three Crucial Challenges for Today’s Fathers

1. Developing as a Parent Parenting roles continue to evolve, and many fathers take a more active role in raising children. And research on parenting styles clarifies the need for fathers to be both supportive and demanding. Relationships require consistent attention and having rituals that build the parent-child bond are crucial. Trust, autonomy, and initiative […]

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You Can’t Go to College With Your Kid. But You Can Pretend on Facebook.

Jenny Tananbaum was at home in New Jersey one Saturday morning last September when she noticed a flurry of activity in the Facebook group she had joined for parents of students at American University in Washington, D.C., where her son was a freshman. Fire alarms were sounding in the dorms, according to posts from anxious […]

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Child Support vs. Deadbeat States

Second of three articles In most states in America, child support doesn’t actually go to children. Particularly when they are being raised in low-income families. Confused? You’re not alone. Many people have no clue how the child support and public assistance systems operate. The first thing to know: If you are a custodial parent (a […]

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How to Safeguard Children Against Cyberbullying

The bullying started with some teasing and mean comments, but escalated significantly when Mallory Grossman, 12, a cheerleader and gymnast from New Jersey, began middle school. It spread to social media where a group of children tormented her. They took pictures of Mallory at school, without her knowledge, posted them online and taunted her with […]

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Should a Single Test Decide a 4-Year-Old’s Educational Future?

To get into a gifted and talented elementary school program in New York City, children must ace a single, high-stakes exam — when they are 4 years old. This admissions process is now a flash point in an escalating debate over how to desegregate the nation’s largest school district. Although New York’s school district has […]

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When Elizabeth Warren Agreed With Betsy DeVos

The most important campaign news of the summer was Elizabeth Warren’s surge. Early in the year, her campaign was foundering. She was in fifth place, with a mere 6 percent support. Now she is rising toward the top, with former Vice President Joe Biden and Senator Bernie Sanders. She’s drawing huge crowds — 15,000 in […]

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5 Mental Health ‘To Dos’ Parents Need to Add to Their Back-To-School Checklist

Back-to-school is a time when many parents become increasingly concerned about cyberbullying, suicidality, self-harm, and substance use. Whether you’re preparing for your first back-to-school season or sending your child off to college, here are the five items I recommend adding to your back-to-school checklist in regards to mental health:  1. Get to know the early […]

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Back to School With Narrow Escapes and a Mother’s Love

“You’re doing all the right things, everything is going to work out.” I’d been repeating this to Ezra over and over, like a mantra, but I’m not sure who I was trying harder to convince, me or them. Ezra, who identifies as nonbinary and prefers the pronouns they, them and theirs, was 19 at the […]

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Family Outriggers: Storm Parents, Godparents, Honorary Aunts

During the time the family lived in our town, there never was an emergency where I was needed. But there was comfort for them knowing that I could be. Most important, it drew me closer to the family. The experience has made me think about the function of “storm parents”, both formal and informal. Consider […]

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Think Your Aging Parents Are Stubborn? Blame ‘Mismatched Goals’

To what extent, the researchers asked middle-aged adults, do your parents ignore suggestions or advice that would make their lives easier or safer? Ignore instructions from their doctors? Insist on doing things their own way, even if that makes their own or others’ lives more difficult, inconvenient or unsafe? That’s how several studies directed by […]

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Surviving the Work Trip: How to Stay Together While Being Apart

Sometimes children during these times develop emotional responses to the temporary absence of their parents. They may make it harder to go to school or become more tearful or clingier with the parent who has stayed home. This has an added challenge for the parent who is maintaining the fort, since being alone with the […]

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