Tag: Parenting

A Peculiarly Dutch Summer Rite: Children Abandoned in the Night Woods

ImageIn the Dutch scouting tradition known as “dropping” groups of children, generally pre-teenagers, are deposited in a forest and expected to find their way back to base.CreditDmitry Kostyukov for The New York Times AUSTERLITZ, the Netherlands — Shortly after 10 p.m. on a recent night, a car came to a stop at the edge of […]

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How My Weight Gain Contributed to My Son’s Disordered Eating

He begged me to lose weight. Of course, it was difficult to do so, instead of me dropping pounds, he began to limit his food intake until he had lost weight. He went from 115 to 107. This doesn’t sound like much but on his 5’2″ frame, it seemed like a huge amount. I could […]

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For Sibling Battles, Be a Sportscaster, Not a Referee

Parents in my psychotherapy practice often ask how to make sibling conflict stop. Understandably, they want the bickering, teasing, aggression and cries of “no fair” to end. But one of the best ways to dial up sibling love is not to squash conflicts, but to learn how to use them. Research supports this, and I’ve […]

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In Washington, Good Grades for Universal Pre-K

Free public school starting at age four, or even three, is growing in many American cities. It’s gaining traction as a way to help young children learn the reading, counting and social skills that prepare them for kindergarten. It also promises to help close academic gaps between rich and poor children. Above all, it may […]

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Team Sports May Help Children Deal With Trauma

I wrote last week about finding ways to make sure that sports participation stays fun for kids, so they can enjoy the benefits of physical activity and fitness. Keeping the body healthy and active has psychological benefits as well, and a new study suggests that organized sports participation may be helpful for kids who are […]

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Bridging the Gap Between Vacation and Everyday Life

I love a good vacation, don’t get me wrong, but I begin to wonder if this whole idea just reinforces the feeling that we are somehow held captive in our day to day life. Why can’t our normal days be more aligned with our vacation days? Do the two really have to be so different? […]

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What to Expect When You’re Expecting Evil

A few years ago, the novelist Helen Phillips woke up in the middle of the night to the sound of her young daughter’s screams. She rushed to her bedside but was unable to calm her child, who was stuck in a nightmare, crying: “I want Mommy! I want Mommy!” “It was one of the most […]

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‘This Is Quite Gay!’

On the quiet, promising first morning of June, I received a text message from my brother in Abuja, Nigeria. “Please, refrain from all these shameful acts,” he wrote. “Everyone is tired of you. Mummy is crying, Daddy is crying. If you don’t value relationships, we do!” My brother had written after I had posted a […]

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Now Some Families Are Hiring Coaches to Help Them Raise Phone-Free Children

Parents around the country, alarmed by the steady patter of studies around screen time, are trying to turn back time to the era before smartphones. But it’s not easy to remember what exactly things were like before smartphones. So they’re hiring professionals. A new screen-free parenting coach economy has sprung up to serve the demand. […]

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Kidz Bop Is a Juggernaut of the CD Age. Can It Survive the Streaming Era?

Several years ago, Vic Zaraya, the president of the music brand Kidz Bop, was having lunch with a senior music industry executive. At the time, Zaraya was also the president of Razor & Tie, the independent label that released Kidz Bop albums until 2018. “Kidz Bop is our Adele,” Zaraya told his lunch companion. The […]

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Sneaking Out for a Burger With My Indian Dad

I am an “ABCD” — an “American Born Confused Desi.” It is a label that has followed me throughout my life, one derisively applied to those of us born in America to Indian parents. The term conveys that all of us who are “American born” have no understanding of what it means to truly be […]

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Keeping the Fun in Children’s Sports

A new clinical report on organized sports for children, preadolescents and adolescents from the American Academy of Pediatrics keeps coming back to the question of fun. The report summarizes evidence on the many benefits of sports participation for children, from acquiring motor skills to developing positive self-image, from strong social interactions to higher levels of […]

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Conquering More Than the Usual Worries at Summer Camp

For 8-year-old Ella Maners, the highlights of a week at summer camp were playing Pictionary by drawing in shaving cream with her toes and careening down a water slide. They sound like typical camp fare, but for Ella and other children who attend the Fear Facers Summer Camp in Gainesville, Fla., the activities are designed […]

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