Tag: Families and Family Life

The Myth of the Two-Parent Home

It is a near truism that the best family structure to raise a child in is a two-parent family. We’re repeatedly told by policymakers, social commentators, religious leaders and a host of others that children raised by both biological parents stand the best chance of success in life. Society routinely blames family structures that deviate […]

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Are Liberals Against Marriage?

The continued plunge in the American birthrate, amid prosperity and low unemployment, has finally made fertility a topic that’s O.K. to worry about even if you aren’t a deep-dyed reactionary. This is a very good thing, since the question of why the world’s wealthiest societies are failing to reproduce themselves is far too important to […]

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For Millennials Making Their Way, a Detour: To Caregiving

In the summer of 2017, soon after starting a new job, Ariel Brandt Lautman took her two young children to Denver to visit her mother. This wasn’t purely a social call. Her mother’s memory had been deteriorating for several years, and Ms. Brandt Lautman, who lives in Silver Spring, Md., needed to plan for her […]

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Do You Need Expert Advice on Being a Grandparent?

The first grandparent to arrive, Rohna Paskow, had taken the train from suburban Philadelphia. She saved seats for her daughter-in-law’s parents, Charles and Michele Buchbauer, who were driving 50 miles from rural New Jersey to join her. Their grandson’s birth was still two months away. But Ms. Paskow’s daughter-in-law had asked everyone to sign up […]

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How to Defuse Tension at the Dinner Table During the Holidays

For many of us, the holidays are the ultimate stress test: travel snags, the pressure to make things perfect, the sometimes overwhelming holiday “cheer” … not to mention the family drama. “We’re not always our best selves around our families,” said Amy E. Gallo, the author of the “HBR Guide to Dealing With Conflict” and […]

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The Kids Who Love ‘Frozen’ and the Parents Who Love Them

What’s the most accurate way to describe kids’ relationship to “Frozen”? Adoration is insufficient, and obsession is downright weak. It’s more like a cathexis, an acutely intense energy focused on a singular entity. But ask any parent of school-aged children what they think about “Let It Go,” the anthem from the 2013 movie, and you […]

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FAFSA Says How Much You Can Pay for College. It’s Often Wrong.

Like millions of other parents, Julie Phipps filled out the federal form last November that determined her college-bound daughter was eligible for financial aid. She also learned how much the federal government figured her family could contribute to the bill: $14,000. That figure, known as the expected family contribution, was generated immediately after she completed […]

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When It Comes to Money, Silence Is Rarely Golden

Silence was breaking Charlotte Lamp’s family apart. Not only was it hurting the personal relationships among the hundred-plus members, it was threatening the financial engine of the family, which made its billion-dollar fortune in the international timber industry. After nearly a century together, the family, largely descendants and relatives of the brothers who founded the […]

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Early Motherhood Has Always Been Miserable

There are two diametrically opposed concepts of motherhood that dominate conversation in America today. There’s the Instagram influencer’s vision of the ideal mother with perfectly groomed, smiling children set against a backdrop of high-end appliances. And there’s the gritty real talk of comedians and writers like Ali Wong, who described her early days of motherhood […]

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Mixed-Race Families in Germany on the Struggle to Belong

Three decades since the Berlin Wall fell, Germans remain deeply divided over the question of what it means to be German. In an article marking the anniversary of Germany’s unification, Katrin Bennhold, The Times’s Berlin bureau chief, examines the renewed debate over German identity. The most vocal participants have been members of Germany’s far-right, anti-immigrant […]

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