Tag: self love

Personal Boundaries and Building Self Love

Boundaries are in place from early in your life and are taught and learned in childhood. Social learning theorist Albert Bandura (1977) often spoke on his theory of modeling and imitation which can extend to teaching concepts such as boundaries. For example, if caregivers model and teach firm boundaries for themselves and their children, then […]

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So You Really Want to Love Yourself?

Over the 140 years since Freud shared this insight there have been many psychotherapy models based entirely on working with what psychologists refer to as subpersonalities. Every subpersonality serves a unique purpose in our lives, purposes that often conflict with one another. The latest of these models is called Internal Family Systems (IFS). IFS is […]

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Self-Care as a Foundation for Love

I’ll address two important ways that self-care is vital in our relationships. Finding the Strength to Calm Ourselves  Our human desire system is very powerful. Attachment Theory tells us that we humans have a strong longing to be respected, understood, and connected. It may feel like our very survival is at stake when our needs are […]

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7 Ways to Cultivate Self-Love

Thus, our self-esteem matters. Research has well-established that it’s a big factor in the health and happiness in marriage. In fact the level of our self-esteem before the relationship can predict its longevity. Low self-esteem can prevent us from reaping the rewards of love in a relationship.  We think about ourselves based on things we […]

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