Tag: self help

4 Potent Ingredients for Deepening Intimacy

Attunement Love involves seeing another person as they are, rather than how we’d like them to be. Attuning to a person’s feelings and needs requires deep listening. Few of us are skilled enough — or saintly enough — to express our emotions and desires in a perfect way. It is incumbent upon us to listen […]

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Why It’s Important to Your Mental Health to Deal Constructively with Self-Doubt

Self-doubt isn’t an automatic determinant or precursor to declining mental health. Nor is it the killer of goals or success. Giving up is, however, on both accounts. The key point to remember here isn’t that you doubt yourself, because you will, but what you’ll do about it will make all the difference between being proactive […]

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Psychology Around the Net: January 25, 2020

  How Brandon Learned to Small Talk and Why It Transformed All His Relationships: Do you struggle with making small talk? If so, you’re not alone. Many people dread the prospect of chatting it up with strangers. In this article, psychologist Jonice Webb PhD, explains how to get better at small talk by asking vertical […]

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Dating Coach Advice: Is Your Insecurity Pushing Men Away?

But in your eagerness to learn how to get this guy to like you, or to make him chase you, you might be appearing desperate and pushing him away. Signs of attraction between people aren’t always obvious, and each approach the relationship with different goals in mind. But if you’re acting out of desperation that […]

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Why Are We So Fearful of Change?

Life is comprised of transitions. Yet, most of us try to avoid change at any cost—even by maintaining a present that isn’t wholly satisfying. If we are not careful, fear of change can prevent us from realizing our full potential. Why are we so fearful of change? Change is uncomfortable. Habits feel right to our neurons […]

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RAIN: A Mindful Way to Process Our Feelings

Healing R.A.I.N. R.A.I.N. is an acronym coined by mindfulness teacher Michele McDonald. It has been adapted by many teachers of mindfulness, including best-selling authors Tara Brach  and Rick Hanson. I find R.A.I.N. to be very compatible with Eugene Gendlin’s somatic approach of Focusing. A central aspect of this approach is to bring a gentle, caring attitude […]

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5 Powerful Ways to Stop Worrying About What Others Think

We beat ourselves up after meetings running through everything we said (or didn’t say), worried that coworkers will think we aren’t smart or talented enough. We post only the best picture out of the twenty-seven selfies we took and add a flattering filter to get the most likes to prove to ourselves that we are […]

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Three Evidence-Based Ways to Feel Better During Winter 

Joining art or exercise classes, hobby groups or even making a point of meeting with friends every week can help us to combat social isolation during winter, while volunteering has even greater benefits. Altruistic activities increase our happiness while also doing good for the wider community, with 94% of volunteers reporting that helping others improves […]

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