Tag: self help

Creating Boundaries Without Being Bound by Them

Boundaries regulate how how responsive we want to be toward others. If a friend asks a favor, such a ride to the airport or a request to meet for lunch, we know that we have the right to say “yes” or “no.” Our caring prompts us to consider their request and take it seriously. Our […]

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Podcast: Learn to Live with Anxiety, Stress, and Worry

Today we are joined by Dr. Russell Morfitt, co-founder of LearntoLive.com.  Dr. Morfitt explains the differences between stress, worry, anxiety, social anxiety, and panic, and tell us how using the techniques of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) can be life changing.  The Learn to Live program is designed to teach CBT skills online to anxiety sufferers, […]

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Using Your Intuition for Self-Care

Following your intuition means that you’re listening to your inner voice, which can be a huge tool in the decision-making process. A study done by Lufityanto, Donkin, and Pearson (2016) found that nonconscious emotional information can boost the accuracy of decision-making while also increasing an individual’s sense of confidence. In addition, it was found to […]

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How to Befriend Your Fear to Live a Fulfilling Life

Fear is unpleasant at best—and dangerous at worst. Many of us even see fear as an enemy, because it arises at inconvenient times (like during a presentation!), because it paralyzes us, and because it makes us feel helpless, weak, and out of control. And yet, fear also can lead us toward a fulfilling life, toward […]

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How to Add More Joy to Your Days

Sometimes, we can get so swept up in the daily hustle that we forget to ask ourselves this question—and we have no idea about the answer. According to therapist Lynn Zakeri, LCSW, “joy is found in different ways by different people.” She defines joy as “better than feeling good,” and “better than fun.” It’s forgetting […]

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Using Writing to Help Us Process Our Grief

“The pain of missing him was unbearable. The thought of living the rest of my life, years upon years, without him filled me with hopelessness and despair,” Neustadter writes in her new book Love You Like the Sky: Surviving the Suicide of a Beloved. Eight months after John died, Neustadter started sending emails to his […]

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What Determines Your Success?

Consider this scenario: You and another colleague are being considered for a promotion. Your educational background is very similar. Your performance at work is comparable. In many ways, you stand on equal footing for this evaluation. But for some reason, you are awarded the job.  Congratulations! To what do you attribute this success? Was it […]

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How Teens and Young Adults with ADHD Can Thrive

Friedman was convinced that because of these differences, she wouldn’t be able to succeed. She feared she’d “never be good enough, smart enough, quick witted enough to be successful in school” and beyond. “It is hard to get used to the idea that my ADHD won’t be going away and I have to actively manage […]

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Self-Care: Why Is It So Important? Why Is It So Hard?

You are not alone if you are asking yourself this same question. Many of us tend to prioritize our day to day duties in something similar to the following order: family, work, chores (cooking, shopping, laundry, etc), activities or other commitments, and last but not least self-care. Rinse and repeat. We consistently put self-care as […]

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How to Make Time for the Things You Really Want to Do

So, if we barely have enough time to do the things we really need to do, how the heck will we have time for the things we really want to do? Below are eight tips to answer that very question. Forget the traditional to-do list. According to Holly Reisem Hanna, creator of The Work at […]

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Podcast: Online Teen Therapy: Everything You Need to Know

In today’s episode, we speak with Haesue Jo, Clinical Support Lead for a large online therapy website, about their new offering for teens and adolescents.  On-line therapy is a novel idea for many — and prompts a lot of questions.  How does on-line counseling work for adolescents?  Are there a lot of differences between the […]

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How Affirming Your Intrinsic Worth Can Help Your Social Anxiety

Steven’s situation illustrates the social anxiety that comes from over-reliance on external influences. Being concerned about how others perceive him creates unnecessary stress, and causes Steven to downplay his needs and be too accommodating. By conforming to other people’s ideas of how and who he should be, he tries to get approval and acceptance. In […]

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PTSD: Dealing with the Boom of July 4th

Our military service members who courageously fought on our behalf, often return with an inability to celebrate this holiday, given the incapacitating nature of their symptoms. In order to help those who helped us, here are some suggestions in case you or someone you know has returned from deployment to help make it through this […]

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5 Mindful Exercises to Ignite and Deepen Your Creativity

You also might feel like your imagination is currently non-existent. You feel blocked or drained. Or maybe the frenetic pace of your days seems to stifle your creativity. In all that going and doing, your mind remains rigid and hyper-focused on your to-do list. But we don’t need to spend hours walking in the woods […]

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5 Facts to Remember When You’re Feeling Ashamed of Your Flaws

I thought being perfect meant being beyond reproach—undeniably lovable and worthy of respect, something I didn’t always receive growing up. And I assumed that if I were perfect in all ways, I could finally relax and enjoy my life because I could trust that no one would judge or hurt me. I could navigate the […]

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