Tag: self help

What I Learned About Loving Again After an Abusive Relationship

But here is the thing that no one talks about, dating again after an abusive relationship is traumatic. Like super traumatic. Every single fear that your ex instilled in you starts exploding to the surface. It is scary and you feel crazy. It makes you feel like maybe it’s you, maybe you are the toxic […]

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When Your Anxiety Doesn’t Have a Trigger

It’s very common for Kristin Bianchi’s clients to tell her that they’re feeling anxious, but they’re not sure why. They say they recently haven’t experienced anything particularly stressful or anxiety provoking, so it doesn’t make much sense. Consequently, “they frequently become worried about the meaning behind these seemingly random feelings of anxiety,” said Bianchi, a […]

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5 Ways to Build Confidence & Reliability in Leadership

Self-confidence is a cornerstone of effective leadership. What makes a good leader? And how confident are you, especially when it comes to your judgment and abilities in the face of uncertainty? Self-confidence is the cornerstone of becoming a successful leader and manager at work. And that means that it’s vital to do everything you can […]

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Automatic Negative Thoughts: Got ANTS on the Brain?

Numbers bandied about from many sources indicate that adults have somewhere between 60,000 to 80,000 thoughts a day. Most are repetitive and many are negative. Two important questions call to be answered: Where do the thoughts originate? What are we to do with them? The response to the first comes from a portion of the […]

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Are You a New Mom Struggling with Scary, Shame-Inducing Thoughts?

You recently had a baby, and everyone keeps saying that you must be in sheer and utter bliss. Clearly, you’re captivated by your bundle of joy. You must be enamored and in absolute love. I bet you’re just walking on cloud nine. You finally have what you’ve always wanted. Life is complete now, isn’t it? […]

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Healthiest Ways to Relax Your Mind, Body and Soul

“Once you learn the art of relaxation, everything happens spontaneously and effortlessly.” – Amma During hectic times, it’s tough to remember that relaxation is more than a luxury. In fact, humans need to relax to maintain balance in their lives. Work stress, family strife, and mounting responsibilities can exact a tremendous toll. Relaxing should be […]

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Do You Trust Your Impulses? A Little Education Goes a Long Way

During May, in honor of Mental Health Awareness Month, advocates like myself educate the public on various topics. One topic we don’t learn enough about is how emotional impulses affect our mind, body, and lives. Impulses, the strong biological pulls to take action, come from emotions. In fact, the whole purpose of emotions is to […]

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How the Heck to Get Organized and Stay Organized When You’ve Got Young Kids

You have a toddler—or three. You work from home. You work outside the home. You’re a stay-at-home-mom or dad. You volunteer. You have hobbies. Whatever the specifics of your situation, spending a lot of time organizing and tidying up just isn’t a reality for you. You don’t have whole weekends to devote to decluttering, or […]

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Small Things I Do Every Day to Manage My Depression

Some days you feel well, and other days, darkness envelopes you. You feel achingly sad, or you feel absolutely nothing. You’re exhausted, and every task feels too big to start. You feel weighed down, as though there are sandbags attached to your shoulders. Managing the symptoms of depression can be hard. But even the smallest […]

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Changing Our Narratives, Changing Our Lives: A Strategy to Unhook from the Unhelpful Stories We Tell Ourselves

Not long ago I was caught up in a temporary funk of self-doubt. I was at a several day event surrounded by incredibly talented people and I found myself slipping back into an old narrative involving social comparison and thoughts of “I’m not good enough.” In the past, these kinds of thoughts and stories I […]

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What I Want Someone Who’s Overwhelmed with Their Mood Disorder to Know

You have depression, or bipolar disorder. And on some days, you feel like you’re treading water—at best. You’re tired of struggling. You’re tired of regularly feeling tired. You’re angry that your to-do list just keeps getting longer and longer. You’re angry that you have to deal with so much darkness day in and day out. […]

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Small Things I Do Every Day to Manage My Bipolar Disorder

Living with bipolar disorder can feel overwhelming. Maybe you’re tired of the ups and downs of different episodes—the soaring energy, the debilitating fatigue, the racing I-need-to-do-everything-and-I-need-to-do-it-now thoughts, and the dark, decelerated, bleak thoughts. Maybe you’re exhausted from struggling with an especially stubborn and deep depression, which makes it tough to concentrate on anything, and feels […]

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How to Get Started Doing That Thing You Really Don’t Want to Do (But Have to!)

You need to fill out paperwork. You need to clean out the garage. You need to pay the bills. You need to start a really challenging project that you’ve been putting off for months. You need to do some other dreaded task that you really don’t want to do but must be done. And yet, […]

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