Tag: self help

Don’t Force Gratitude

In his book What Happy People Know, Dan Baker argues that you can’t be in a state of appreciation and fear, or anxiety, at the same time. He explains: During active appreciation the threatening messages from your amygdala [fear center of the brain] and the anxious instincts of your brainstem are cut off, suddenly and […]

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Learn How to Resolve & Release Emotional Pain

How can empathetic people let loose the burden of other people’s emotions? When your body has disease, illness or painful conditions, suppressed (somatized) emotion can exacerbate symptoms and escalate deterioration or decline. In my last article, I shared a practice for identifying and acknowledging emotional energy to avoid suppressing it into the energy system of […]

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Wearing the Inside Out: Meaningful (Dis)connections

When used for purposes of knowledge acquisition, information sharing, and community involvement, no one would debate the idea that social media can have an enduring positive impact our lives. However, with every scroll, click, like, and share, the digital debris that we collect and store on our internal ‘hard drive’ has a way of leaving […]

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8 Ways to Find Yourself Before Looking for Your Soulmate

Finally fall in love…for real. You might call them your soulmate. The love of your life. Your life partner. That special person. Many of us are seeking to find someone to love us, unconditionally. We crave our perfect complement — someone with whom we will share the memories of our lives with. So we go […]

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Does Calling Depression an Illness Worsen Stigma?

I plead guilty to expounding on the biochemical vulnerabilities and abnormalities in neural wiring of depression to make the case that it is a legitimate illness alongside lupus, breast cancer, or psoriatic arthritis. I thought I was doing a good thing by quoting experts like Peter Kramer, M.D, who believes that because depression can be […]

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5 Mental Shifts to Stop Caring What People Think of You

“Care about what other people think and you will always be their prisoner.” – Lao Tzu We carefully pick out what we wear to the gym to make sure we look good in the eyes of the other gym goers. We beat ourselves up after meetings running through everything we said (or didn’t say), worried […]

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Empower Your Inner Peacekeeper

Inner peace is the centerpiece of your soul. Stress is a constant, a fact of life, a silent killer. These catchphrases grab our attention because, yep, they sound pretty stressful  —  as though we’d better put on our protective gear, grab our weapons, and prepare for combat… or else. No doubt, our daily exposure to the stress […]

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Why We Don’t Perform at Our Best and How to Change That

Riley Jenkins, a consultant at an elite firm, prides herself on responding to her clients’ emails within an hour. She works every Saturday. She never takes a flight that doesn’t have internet access, so she can work (and of course attend to her inbox). She stays up late working on clients’ proposals. She always picks […]

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8 Reasons Why Your Depression May Not Be Getting Better

You’ve been to four psychiatrists and tried over a dozen medication combinations. You still wake up with that dreadful knot in your stomach and wonder if you will ever feel better. Some people enjoy a straight path to remission. They get diagnosed. They get a prescription. They feel better. Others’ road to recovery isn’t so […]

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6 Tell-Tale Signs You’re Not Ready for a Relationship Yet

Just because you want a relationship, doesn’t mean you’re ready for one. When everyone around you seems to be dating and are in a relationship, you may start asking yourself, “When’s my turn? When will I find love?” Society gives us messages every day of every month that we should be dating by a certain […]

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Boiling Mad? It Might Not Be Anger After All

Sometimes, a cigar is just a cigar, as Freud may or may not have said. That is, sometimes anger is just anger. You’re annoyed or aggravated, because you’re genuinely annoyed or aggravated. But other times, anger sits on the surface while other emotions and past experiences swim underneath. According to Chris Boyd, a psychotherapist in […]

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A Room of One’s Own: Why We Need Space and Quiet

Virginia Woolf believed that if a woman was to write fiction that she must have money and a room of her own. I would say the same for a mental health blogger or anyone in a creative field. Money can be hard to come by. But a creative soul should at least have a fort […]

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Podcast: Improve Your Mental Health with Super Powers

Life is tough. Life with mental illness is tougher. Life with mental illness on top of other conditions and life experiences can seem too tough. Today’s guest shares how she dealt with Tourette Syndrome, OCD, anxiety, depression, and many other things, by tapping into her own super powers. Perhaps you can, too. About Our Guest […]

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6 Mental & Emotional Flaming Hoops You Jump Through for Your Kids

Few parents, if any, will say that parenting is a walk in the park. The truth is that parenting is real, raw, and involves a great deal of hard work. It’s not all rainbows and butterflies. While the happy moments are certainly there, they tend to get overshadowed by moments of anxiety, frustration, and fatigue. […]

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Finding Your Yes: A Powerful Strategy for Shifting from Negative Habits to Positive Ones

Try this short experiment and say the following statements to yourself: I want to stop eating junk food. I want to stop yelling at my kids. I want to stop worrying about things I can’t control. (Feel free to substitute behaviors that might be more relevant in your life). Notice how this feels in your […]

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6 Mindfulness-Based Techniques to Help You Fall Asleep

You’re all-too familiar with the cracks and indentations of your bedroom ceiling. Because you’ve spent one-too-many sleepless nights staring at it. And staring. And staring. And staring some more. You likely don’t struggle with insomnia or another sleep disorder, but on some nights, it’s simply tough to fall asleep–and stay that way. Psychotherapist Melissa Divaris […]

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