Tag: self-compassion

Dealing with Deep Sadness During the Holidays

Through all of one’s individual reasons why sadness can descend during the holidays, there is also a general presumption that it “tis,” indeed, “the season to be jolly,” fed to us by advertisers, holiday-themed movies and TV shows, the bright-light cheer draped over neighborhoods and storefronts — not to mention the constant jubilation of holiday […]

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When OCD and Self-Compassion Meet in the Middle

Kristin Neff, PhD, who studied the concept of self-compassion for five years, defines self-compassion as, “Recognition of our own suffering… The nurturing quality of self-compassion allows us to flourish, to appreciate the beauty and richness of life, even in hard times.” In her research, Dr. Neff discovered three components of self-compassion necessary to facilitate personal healing: […]

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Women and ADHD: Changing Destructive Self-Talk

Why am I so stupid? I’m too sensitive. Why am I so lazy? Everyone else can do this without any problems. Why can’t I?   I’ll never accomplish that. How does she get everything done?   Many women with ADHD wake up with these kinds of thoughts, and they follow them throughout the day. Perhaps […]

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Psychology Around the Net: October 5, 2019

New Psychology Research Links Conservative Music, But Not Rebellious Music, to Maladaptive Personality Traits: According to new research published in Psychology of Music, intense and rebellious music genres — like heavy metal and rap — doesn’t seem to be linked to maladaptive personality traits; however, the research did show some “modest links” between certain other […]

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Forgiveness as a Self-Healing Tool

Thirty years before, a man had brutally raped her. She’d spent three weeks in hospital, and has physical handicaps from it to this day. The court hearing was even more traumatizing. He showed no remorse. His story was that she’d initiated contact, invited sex, then backed out at the last minute, hitting him and scratching […]

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Healthy Relationships with Others Begins with the Self

Imagine these two as a Venn diagram. In one circle, the “ideal self,” partially overlapping another circle, the “real self.” When the relationship between these two circles is healthy, and the overlap between them is substantial enough. The two work together in incremental growth. The ideal self pulling our growth forward, ever coaxing us toward […]

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Practicing Self-Care: What Are Your D-Needs and B-Needs?

Self-care has become a popular topic and rightly so, as we begin to understand more about the longevity of our bodies and minds as it directly correlates to our intentional choices for health and wellness. But this concept is not new. American Psychologist Abraham Maslow was considered a pioneer in the 1950s for understanding that […]

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Creating Boundaries Without Being Bound by Them

Boundaries regulate how how responsive we want to be toward others. If a friend asks a favor, such a ride to the airport or a request to meet for lunch, we know that we have the right to say “yes” or “no.” Our caring prompts us to consider their request and take it seriously. Our […]

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Using Your Intuition for Self-Care

Following your intuition means that you’re listening to your inner voice, which can be a huge tool in the decision-making process. A study done by Lufityanto, Donkin, and Pearson (2016) found that nonconscious emotional information can boost the accuracy of decision-making while also increasing an individual’s sense of confidence. In addition, it was found to […]

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How Teens and Young Adults with ADHD Can Thrive

Friedman was convinced that because of these differences, she wouldn’t be able to succeed. She feared she’d “never be good enough, smart enough, quick witted enough to be successful in school” and beyond. “It is hard to get used to the idea that my ADHD won’t be going away and I have to actively manage […]

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Self-Care: Why Is It So Important? Why Is It So Hard?

You are not alone if you are asking yourself this same question. Many of us tend to prioritize our day to day duties in something similar to the following order: family, work, chores (cooking, shopping, laundry, etc), activities or other commitments, and last but not least self-care. Rinse and repeat. We consistently put self-care as […]

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How to Manage Anxiety During Periods of Transition

Within this void we fear not knowing where we are and what is going to happen next. We want to quickly ground ourselves and find a sense of security or comfort. We may rush into the next career, the next relationship or try and “fix” what we feel is in turmoil before us. Yet, it […]

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