DEAR DEIDRE: WHEN my brother cheated on his wife then got divorced, Mum said he brought shame on us all. She now doesn’t want to see him at Christmas – but I do.
He’s my little brother and I knew at once his girlfriend was not what she seemed.
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He was young and impulsive, just 21 at the time, and he married too soon.
She’s two years older and started to lay down the law straight away. I don’t blame him for cheating on her or for getting divorced.
Our mum is old-fashioned and can’t forgive what he did. She wants us all over for Christmas as usual, except for my brother.
As his big sister – I’m 25 – I can’t bear to think of him being alone on Christmas Day, but I don’t want to spoil it for Mum either.
DEIDRE SAYS: Your brother made a mistake but he is young and still needs his family there for him.
Point out to your mum forgiveness is part of the Christmas message.
Your brother is less likely to repeat that sort of mistake if she hugs him close rather than rejects him.
I hope she comes round but if not, best split your day so you spend time with them both.